Same-sex partnership: Are They Allowed According to the Qur’an?

By Simone Jamilla

The story of Lot is very clear to me, that men lusting after men is not the done thing. If you want to be in a same sex relationship then that is your choice, no one has the right to tell a person how to live their life, nor should innocent people be tortured, ridiculed or killed whatever their proclivities. (5:32 – 6:151) God makes it clear for me at least that men are for women and women are for men, and that the story of Lot is an example of men preferring men, not raping men but lusting after men.

The moral law is defined by God, and the pattern defined by God is very clearly explained in these ayatin:

30:21 “And among His signs is that He created mates for you from among yourselves, that you might find rest in them, and He established affection and mercy between you. Truly in that are signs for a people who reflect.”

49:13 “O mankind, We created you from a male and female, and We made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Surely, the most honourable among you in the sight of God is the most righteous. God is Knowledgeable, Expert.”

53:45 “and that He creates the two—male and female—from a sperm-drop when it is emitted.”

75:39 “Then He made the two pairs, male and female.”

92:3 “And by ˹the One˺ Who created male and female!”

43:70 “Enter the Garden, you and your wives, delighting in your joy”

2:222-223 “They ask you about menstruation. Say, “It is painful, so keep away from women during their menstruation, and do not approach them until they are purified. When they are purified, you may approach them the way God has ordained you.” God loves the repentant and the purified. Your women are a cultivation for you. So approach your cultivation as you wish towards goodness. And be aware of God and know that you will meet Him, and give good news to the believers. “

42:49-50 “The kingdom of the heavens and the earth belongs to God. He creates what he wills. He gives daughters to whomever He wills, and He gives sons to whom He wills. Or He may bestow them with both daughters and sons, and He makes whom He wills sterile. He is Knowledgeable, Capable..”

From what I am understanding; God has a system, and in order to bil-mutaqīna (be of the God-conscious) it is important to follow his system even when it comes to relationships. If you cannot, then this sign gives the answer:

24:33 “Let those who cannot find someone to marry, maintain chastity until God makes them rich through his favours. Let the slaves who want to buy their freedom have an agreement with you in writing if you find them to be virtuous. Give them money out of God’s property which he has given to you. Do not force your girls into prostitution to make money if they want to be chaste. If they have been compelled to do so, God will be Al-merciful and All-forgiving to them”

In 24:33; the word nikāḥan means marriage contract/spouse, the sign translates: “Those who do not find marriage.” There is no specific reason given here, because people will have many different reasons as to why they can’t marry. God is not black and white, he knows that his creation is rich in diversity, and culture. What seems to be clear about 24:33 is that God is directing us to remain chaste. This is a very important commandment as it requires complete reliance and trust in God and shows who are l-ṣābirīna (the patient ones). Abstinence is what is being flagged here, and trusting that God will grace you with a better way. This is my understanding at this present time.

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